So yesterday we had two brides at polar ends of the planning spectrum. One bride had just “decided” they were getting married and has chosen April, yes, April, this year. I had a slight moment of panic when she told me. Half an hour later her dress was chosen, we were talking bridesmaid styles and off she went, stating that she felt most brides spend too much time planning a wedding.
The appointment before her had just delayed her wedding. In order to have more time to plan and save up. By doing this she’s added another year, making it 2 years at least.
So these completely opposite brides are ultimately planning in essence the same thing, a wedding. So my question for today, is how long is a normal length of time to plan your wedding?
I am often asked what is normal, and I never really have the right answer, because I think it depends on the bride. I had 18 months and to be honest I would have liked to have done it sooner. The parents and all involved looked at me in abject horror, when on Saturday 13th January, 2 days after the proposal, i suggested June the same year. My mother point blank refused to even entertain the idea, and quickly turned the diary to the months in the back of the diary for the following year. Lengthly discussions then ensued with everyone (including the mother in law) and it was decided the following June would allow enough time to plan everything, they hoped.
At the time I was a bit disappointed to not be marrying sooner and that planning would involve 18 months. It turns out 18 months allowed a nice spread of the “work” involved to mainly weekends. Apart from the lead up there was still time to talk about life outside of the wedding planning, just!
On the other hand, I may have had a small heart attack if it all happened in 3 months, i may have worried, like I always do before a deadline for anything, that I’ve forgotten something.
I have met many brides who have admitted that they have loved all the planning and wished it could last longer. Whereas others who have wanted it (the planning, not the wedding) to be over, as they found it all too much.
So, how long did you plan or are planning your wedding for? Could you have done it in 3 months?